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Just as your body physically prepares for death, you must prepare
emotionally and mentally also.
As death approaches, you may become less interested in the outside
world and the specific details of daily life, such as the date or time. You may
turn more inward and be less socially involved with others. You may want only a
few people to be close. This introspection may be a means of letting go and
saying good-bye to everything you have known.
In the days before death, you may enter a phase of unique conscious
awareness and communication that can be misinterpreted as confusion by your
caregivers and loved ones. You may talk about needing to go somewhere, about
"going home" or "going away." The meaning of this communication is not known,
but some people feel this talk helps you to prepare for your approaching
Events in the recent past may become intertwined with memories from
your distant past. You may remember events from years long gone in vivid detail
but not remember what happened even an hour earlier.
You may spend time thinking about people who have already died. You
may talk about seeing or hearing others who have died before you. Your loved
ones or caregivers may hear you conversing with a dead friend or
If you are caring for a dying loved one, you may become frightened or
upset by this unique communication. You may feel you need to help reorient your
loved one to reality. But denying this experience can often be upsetting
and frustrating to your loved one. If this communication bothers you, talking
to your loved one's doctor or hospice worker may help you better understand
what is happening.
A dying loved one may become
delirious, which also can be a frightening experience
for everyone involved. Delirium occurs in many of those who are near the end of
life. It may have a single cause, or it may result from a combination of
several factors such as medicines or changes in the body's metabolism.
Symptoms of delirium include agitation, hallucinations, and consciousness that comes and goes. These symptoms can usually be managed with medicines.
You probably will eat and drink less as death nears. This may be
related to your general weakness and slowing metabolism.
Because eating has important social meanings, it may be difficult for
your family and friends to witness your inability to eat. But changes in
your metabolism mean that you do not need the same amount of food and fluids that you needed before.
You can be offered small sips of fluid or small bites of food as long
as you are alert and able to swallow. If swallowing is difficult or impossible,
thirst can be prevented by wiping your mouth with a moist washcloth or a
special oral swab (purchased at a pharmacy) dipped in a small amount of
As death approaches, you may alternate between periods of
rapid breathing and periods of no breathing. It is not unusual to stop
breathing for over a minute, then take another breath. This may happen during the last few hours or even the last few days of your life.
approaches, your breathing may become moist and congested. This has been called
the "death rattle." Breathing changes commonly develop when you are weak and
normal secretions in your airways and lungs become trapped.
Although the noisy breathing may be alarming to your loved ones, you
probably will not have pain or be aware of the congestion. Because the fluid is
deep in the lungs, suctioning will not remove it. Your doctor can prescribe
oral drops (atropine) or a patch (scopolamine) to decrease the
Your loved ones or caregivers can turn you on your
side to help the secretions drain from your mouth. Also, your caregivers can
remove the secretions frequently from your mouth with a moist washcloth or a
special mouth swab (available from hospice or purchased at pharmacies).
Your doctor may prescribe oxygen therapy or medicine to help relieve your shortness
of breath. Oxygen therapy may help you become more comfortable but will not
prolong your life. Narcotic medicine also can make it easier to breathe and will help you feel calm.
As death nears, the part of the brain responsible for regulating body
temperature fails. You may run a high temperature one moment
or feel very cold. Your arms and legs
may be very cold to the touch and even appear pale and blotchy. This change in
skin color is called mottling and is very common in the hours or days before
Your caregivers can help control your fever by applying wet, lukewarm
cloths to the skin (sponge bath) or by giving nonprescription medicines
Many of these medications are available as a rectal
suppository if you are unable to swallow.
As death approaches, you may sleep more and may be more difficult to
arouse. Periods of wakefulness tend to be shorter.
As death nears, your caregivers will notice that you do not respond
at all, that you appear to be in a deep sleep. This condition is known as a
coma. When you are in a coma, you will be confined to bed, and all physical
needs (such as bathing, turning, and bowel and bladder care) will be taken care
of by someone else.
General weakness is also very common as you approach death. It is not
unusual to need additional assistance walking, bathing, and using the toilet.
Eventually, you may need help turning over in bed.
Medical equipment such as a wheelchair, walker, and hospital bed can
be very helpful at this time. This equipment can be rented from a medical
supply company or provided by a hospice program.
kidneys often gradually stop producing urine as death
nears. As a result, your urine will become dark brown or dark red. Also, the amount of urine
produced by the kidneys decreases.
As your appetite decreases, your bowel habits may also change. The
stools, or feces, may become hard and difficult to pass (constipation) as your
fluid intake decreases and you become weaker.
The doctor or hospice worker should be informed if you do not have a
bowel movement at least every 3 days or your bowel movements are uncomfortable.
Medicines to soften the feces (stool softeners) or to speed the passage of
stool from the bowel (laxatives) may be recommended to prevent constipation. If
you are unable to pass stools, an
enema may be given to help cleanse the bowel.
As you become weaker, it is not uncommon to lose voluntary control of
your bladder and bowels. A
urinary catheter can be placed in your bladder as a
means of continually draining urine. Also, disposable pads and underwear can be
supplied by a hospice program or purchased at a pharmacy.
Visual changes are fairly common as you near death. You may notice
that you cannot see well.
You may hear sounds or see things that no one else experiences (hallucinations). Visual hallucinations are very common
as death approaches.
If you are caring for a dying person who is experiencing
hallucinations, gentle reassurance is often helpful. Acknowledge what the
person is experiencing. Denying that the hallucinations are occurring can often
be upsetting and frustrating to the dying person. Talk to the person, even if
he or she is in a coma. It is generally recognized that dying people can hear,
even when in a deep comatose state. People who have recovered from comas often
describe being able to hear during the time they were in the coma.
ByHealthwise StaffPrimary Medical ReviewerAnne C. Poinier, MD - Internal MedicineSpecialist Medical ReviewerShelly R. Garone, MD, FACP - Palliative Medicine
Current as ofFebruary 20, 2015
Current as of:
February 20, 2015
Anne C. Poinier, MD - Internal Medicine & Shelly R. Garone, MD, FACP - Palliative Medicine
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